In an article this weekend at
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15801325 the AP has once again documented the sort of rape that goes on when children are adopted.
This is not a new problem, but, as usual, the prescriptions are one-sided – unsupportable – and wrong.
There is a hue and cry for women who are birth mothers to be able to revoke consent, and to be able to enforce open adoption agreements. Good.
Why do fathers keep being treated as anonymous sperm-donors?
Today, in Florida, a father doesn’t even have to be told if the mother of a child takes that kid to a fire station and “legally abandons” the baby in the first hours of birth. He has no means of tracing that infant, nor does he have any right to choose to raise that kid on his own.
How come? If Mommy decides to keep that little bundle of joy, you can bet he’s going to get an 18 year child support bill!
Isn’t it time that we stopped this stupidity?
Years ago I penned an essay called “In a Perfect World”, which can be found at
http://childrens-justice.org/papers/perfect-world.htm. It touches on many other issues regarding adoption and legal parenthood, but among them is the adoption mess and the damage it does to birth parents – both men and women.
Now many will ask “where do you get the right to pontificate on this sort of thing.”
I’ll tell you where – I’m an adopted child, and to this day, at 43, I have ZERO respect for the legal system that allowed this to occur in the form that it did. I have, as an adopted person, no rights of any kind of to know who my birth parents are, nor do they have any rights to know who and where I am. By a stroke of mistake in record-keeping I know my birth name, and thus could trace my birth mother if I wanted to (I don’t) – but I have no such record of who my father was available to me in any way, shape or form, nor do I know if he voluntarily relinquished custody of me or whether he simply never even knew I existed.
Both men and women are 50% participants in creating children. If the law is going to hold men accountable for at least half of the costs of raising said children (and it does) then the law must also afford them equal rights to go with the responsibilities.
No child should ever be able to be given to an “adoptive” family without the written consent of the father, and under no circumstances should adoptive records be sealed.
Of course you’ll never see the mainstream media take this position – doing so would require that they stop pandering to the feminist movement and instead look at what’s best for THE KIDS.
Labels: adoption, fathers rights, feminist stupidity, kids rights
